Comments on: Asian Girls Go For White Guys? http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/ An irreverent look at Korean social issues Wed, 14 May 2008 08:42:07 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU By: Cambridge http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4677 Cambridge Wed, 23 Apr 2008 23:47:55 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4677 Thank you. I think I am going ask her if that is the explanation - very tactfully. Thank you. I think I am going ask her if that is the explanation - very tactfully.

]]> By: James Turnbull http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4663 James Turnbull Wed, 23 Apr 2008 01:37:29 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4663 It's never happened to me personally, but from what I've read about similar experiences that some foreigners living in Korea have had, it definitely sounds like she called her mother and she forbid her from seeing you. Her behaviour makes little sense otherwise. It’s never happened to me personally, but from what I’ve read about similar experiences that some foreigners living in Korea have had, it definitely sounds like she called her mother and she forbid her from seeing you. Her behaviour makes little sense otherwise.

]]> By: Cambridge http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4662 Cambridge Tue, 22 Apr 2008 22:49:53 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4662 I think that I may have run into the Parental Objections problem. One of my neighbors is a Korean-American woman. Very sweet, very intelligent, and unbelievably cute. We had spoken on several occasions when we ran into each other and I must confess that I developed a major crush on her. Several weeks ago I asked her for a date on the following weekend. She gave me a big smile and said "maybe" in a tone of voice that sounded like it meant probably. She said that she was weighed down with work and school ( which is true) but she would tell me in a few days. Then it turned out that she seemed to avoid me for the rest of the week. I met her by accident that weekend outside her apartment and she looked very embarrassed and quickly went into the apartment after saying nothing but hello. She's been friendly since then, but I never her for a date again since I am not too stupid to know what the probable result would be. I realize that she may have thought things over and decided I was not much of a prize. On the other hand, I am quite suspicious that she called her mother who had gone back to Korea; I think that her father is dead. She may have asked her mother if she and any objections to possible date with me and gotten a more resounding and angry response than she expected. The woman herself was born in the US and grew up here, but I know that parental vetoes can still be effective in the second generation. Does anyone who is Korean, Korean-American or who simply knows more about Korean culture than I do think that my suspicion is probably true or probably false? I would appreciate it if you would post the answer on this message board. (I certainly hope that she doesn't read it). I think that I may have run into the Parental Objections problem. One of my neighbors is a Korean-American woman. Very sweet, very intelligent, and unbelievably cute. We had spoken on several occasions when we ran into each other and I must confess that I developed a major crush on her. Several weeks ago I asked her for a date on the following weekend. She gave me a big smile and said
“maybe” in a tone of voice that sounded like it meant probably. She said that she was weighed down with work and school ( which is true) but she would tell me in a few days. Then it turned out that she seemed to avoid me for the rest of the week. I met her by accident that weekend outside her apartment and she looked very embarrassed and quickly went into the apartment after saying nothing but hello. She’s been friendly since then, but I never her for a date again since I am not too stupid to know what the probable result would be.
I realize that she may have thought things over and decided I was not much of a prize. On the other hand, I am quite suspicious that she called her mother who had gone back to Korea; I think that her father is dead. She may have asked her mother if she and any objections to possible date with me and gotten a more resounding and angry response than she expected. The woman herself was born in the US and grew up here, but I know that parental vetoes can still be effective in the second generation.
Does anyone who is Korean, Korean-American or who simply knows more about Korean culture than I do think that my suspicion is probably true or probably false?
I would appreciate it if you would post the answer on this message board. (I certainly hope that she doesn’t read it).

]]> By: James Turnbull http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4472 James Turnbull Fri, 11 Apr 2008 13:50:58 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4472 Jip, Can you please tell me where evidence of this "white superiority complex" of mine is? I was pretty clear in the 2nd paragraph about not taking the videos seriously and not generalising from them. To be precise, the most "racist" statement I make there is: "...but if it’s true that East Asian women are often more attracted to White men than Asian men when given the opportunity, then I think the Indian guy at the end of the first video identifies the most likely reason why..." And that's the last time Western men even get mentioned. You're right that the media has a role to play too, but surely if the images and reality were so different then Korean and non-Korean Asian women would wise-up (about Western and Korean men respectively) after the first few negative experiences? Besides which, the video is about East Asian women in America dating Western and Asian men, and living there would mean that the disjuncture between the Hollywood image and the reality would take even less time to sink in. Jip,

Can you please tell me where evidence of this “white superiority complex” of mine is? I was pretty clear in the 2nd paragraph about not taking the videos seriously and not generalising from them. To be precise, the most “racist” statement I make there is:

“…but if it’s true that East Asian women are often more attracted to White men than Asian men when given the opportunity, then I think the Indian guy at the end of the first video identifies the most likely reason why…”

And that’s the last time Western men even get mentioned.

You’re right that the media has a role to play too, but surely if the images and reality were so different then Korean and non-Korean Asian women would wise-up (about Western and Korean men respectively) after the first few negative experiences? Besides which, the video is about East Asian women in America dating Western and Asian men, and living there would mean that the disjuncture between the Hollywood image and the reality would take even less time to sink in.

]]> By: JIP http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4471 JIP Fri, 11 Apr 2008 11:05:06 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4471 I've read your blog on and off, and find expat's view of Korea pretty interesting. Take this issue as an example. I think your "white" superiority complex is clouding a simple observation. Media. What's US's #1 export? Entertainment. Isn't there so called Korean wave going on in Asia? Or have you not heard about it. Apparently foreign asian women think Korean men are very hot and romantic after watching some stupid drama. Lol. Jokes on them. And joke will be on most of these korean women too. Not saying your a bad guy, I'm sure you're great to your girl. But real American men and Hollywood's portrayal will be stark different similar to Kdrama's portrayal of Korean men and real korean men. I think all other reason are valid, but will be distant second to the real starter, Hollywood and music videos. I’ve read your blog on and off, and find expat’s view of Korea pretty interesting. Take this issue as an example. I think your “white” superiority complex is clouding a simple observation. Media. What’s US’s #1 export? Entertainment. Isn’t there so called Korean wave going on in Asia? Or have you not heard about it. Apparently foreign asian women think Korean men are very hot and romantic after watching some stupid drama. Lol. Jokes on them. And joke will be on most of these korean women too. Not saying your a bad guy, I’m sure you’re great to your girl. But real American men and Hollywood’s portrayal will be stark different similar to Kdrama’s portrayal of Korean men and real korean men. I think all other reason are valid, but will be distant second to the real starter, Hollywood and music videos.

]]> By: James Turnbull http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4358 James Turnbull Mon, 31 Mar 2008 14:09:56 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4358 Thanks gator, but I'm a bit confused by the "<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twinkie#See_also" rel="nofollow">twinkie</a>" reference... Thanks gator, but I’m a bit confused by the “twinkie” reference…

]]> By: gator-twinkie http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4350 gator-twinkie Sun, 30 Mar 2008 18:26:00 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4350 Just a quick intro, I'm a 26 yoa twinkie male, korean by blood, raised as an italian catholic. Lived in NJ, TX and FL. I have never dated, let alone had a relationship with an asian girl. I think it is a social status meme, maybe subconsciencely in America, the closer you can get to being 'white' the better off you are. I've dated white, black, hispanic, native american, indian; just never seem to be able to get anything working with asian girls. I asked my two sisters ( korean adoptees too), and they refuse to date asian guys; they prefer tall white/black men. Nice article and awesome site. -chris Just a quick intro, I’m a 26 yoa twinkie male, korean by blood, raised as an italian catholic. Lived in NJ, TX and FL. I have never dated, let alone had a relationship with an asian girl. I think it is a social status meme, maybe subconsciencely in America, the closer you can get to being ‘white’ the better off you are. I’ve dated white, black, hispanic, native american, indian; just never seem to be able to get anything working with asian girls. I asked my two sisters ( korean adoptees too), and they refuse to date asian guys; they prefer tall white/black men. Nice article and awesome site.

-chris

]]> By: Johanna James http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4275 Johanna James Tue, 25 Mar 2008 01:28:50 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-4275 that's weird because all the koreans I know are over-confident sexy bastards... go figure. that’s weird because all the koreans I know are over-confident sexy bastards… go figure.

]]> By: April http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-3220 April Thu, 20 Dec 2007 22:35:19 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-3220 Korean girl's don't like korean guys to be really assertive though. But I like your blogs !!! Korean girl’s don’t like korean guys to be really assertive though.

But I like your blogs !!!

]]> By: Barry http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-3153 Barry Fri, 14 Dec 2007 01:38:56 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-3153 Maybe it is due to chemistry,chemistry under different cultural background?But it is really an interesting phenomenon that some of my friends are dating Asian girls online,like cncupid.com/photo/romance, japanesefriedfinder and they find that most of the members on those sites are Asian girls,Asian guys and White guys.You see,only a few white girls.And most of the Asian girls say that they'd like to experience international romance and white guys are also interested in finding an Asian bride.Not many Asian guys say that they want white girlfriends,though "race" is not a problem. So,maybe Western male chemistry attracts Asian female chemistry??? Just a joke! I am not an expert on this.. lol Maybe it is due to chemistry,chemistry under different cultural background?But it is really an interesting phenomenon that some of my friends are dating Asian girls online,like cncupid.com/photo/romance, japanesefriedfinder and they find that most of the members on those sites are Asian girls,Asian guys and White guys.You see,only a few white girls.And most of the Asian girls say that they’d like to experience international romance and white guys are also interested in finding an Asian bride.Not many Asian guys say that they want white girlfriends,though “race” is not a problem. So,maybe Western male chemistry attracts Asian female chemistry??? Just a joke! I am not an expert on this.. lol

]]> By: James Turnbull http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-3131 James Turnbull Wed, 12 Dec 2007 08:14:08 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-3131 Really? You don't mean the first girl you see in the second video, do you? If you do mean the girl in the photo, well, I'm happy to hear it, but that never occured to me - I only included the picture because I liked their tense, restricted-looking poses. If I had to venture an opinion, I'd say I like her face, but she's a little too thin for me. Really? You don’t mean the first girl you see in the second video, do you? If you do mean the girl in the photo, well, I’m happy to hear it, but that never occured to me - I only included the picture because I liked their tense, restricted-looking poses. If I had to venture an opinion, I’d say I like her face, but she’s a little too thin for me.

]]> By: Web 2.0 Asia http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-3124 Web 2.0 Asia Wed, 12 Dec 2007 07:19:54 +0000 http://thegrandnarrative.wordpress.com/2007/10/27/why-asian-girls-go-for-white-guys/#comment-3124 This was quite interesting. (BTW I second on King) This was quite interesting.
(BTW I second on King)

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